A Discussion on The Myth of Self-Esteem with Ross Jeffries

THIS WEEK'S WEEKEND WINGMAN

We've been getting a lot of questions about the new Nail Your
Inner Game with Ross Jeffries program. (If that's not the
understatement of 2008.) It seems that the majority of you are
awakening to what Ross has been telling us about and want to
know if anyone has recently benefited from these new
methodologies...and the answer to that question is...yes!

Flashback was just an ordinary student in the community not
too long ago and he credits his complete life transformation,
and success at large, to his mastery of Ross's new Nail Your
Inner Game methodologies.

Since a ton of you guys have been writing in asking questions
about this program, I asked Flashback to write a special guest
article to tell you about some of his experiences, and I was
glad I did because he has a very unique way of making complex
subjects easy to understand.

Plus, as an added bonus, Flashback convinced Ross to record
his thoughts on The Myth of Self-Esteem.

So, without further adieu, here's Flashback's unique
perspective on Ross's new Nail Your Inner Game methodologies...



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There is no spoon...
by Flashback
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I had been searching the community and studying all the
material I could find for quite some time, but it wasn't until
I met Ross Jeffries, and he shared this one particular secret
with me, that I truly began to transform myself into the man I
am today.

The secret Ross shared with me was more profound than anything
else I could find. The best way to express it is through the
simple analogy that Ross had used while he was teaching the
new Nail Your Inner Game methodologies to me...

Ross would remind me time and again about Archimedes, the
famous Greek mathematician, physicist and philosopher, and how
he was famous for saying, "Give me a lever and a place to
stand and I will move the world."

Now remember, there are 2 parts to this equation: "the lever"
and "the place to stand". I want to apply this analogy to the
community for you:

As you know, up until now, despite the resounding success that
has come out of the community, there has been a huge missing
component that has driven many of our brothers by the wayside,
feeling average, frustrated, and VERY chumpish.

It appears that almost all of the leaders in the community
have only been teaching THE LEVER aspect of attraction, the
how to's and mechanic's of the game.

For example: Here is WHAT TO SAY and DO with your BODY
LANGUAGE when you approach...here's how to handle groups,
manufacture social proof, say witty lines that convey
attractiveness, and that sort of stuff.

And if you're blown out, they would teach, "Get over it and
get into the next set, there are so many to open..." If you
feel bad, they would say, "Well that's just a normal
biological response. Get back in the field and plow through
the pain..."

Well guess what, dude: That's not teaching you the second part
of the equation. THAT'S NOT TEACHING YOU THE PLACE TO STAND! I
think this is precisely why you sometimes feel the way you do,
the way I once did. There really is so much more to success
and the equation at hand...

It's very exciting to know that all of you are about to be
presented with a very rare opportunity to bypass all this
pain, frustration, and agony that used to be REQUIRED of every
PUA to get to the Big Show.

The new Nail Your Inner Game with Ross Jeffries course will
ensure that you do not have to go through the extremely
intense pain period before realizing that it is not about
learning 1,001 tricks, tips, and tactics verbatim.

Now here's the secret - the secret of the Holy Grail Ross was
talking about: There is no pain...you read that right. As in "There IS no spoon, Neo..."

This fascinating technology that Ross has developed provides
you with a detailed map of the place to stand...and once you
are enjoying this new perspective, you will realize very
quickly that there are no such things as rejection and
failure...there is only feedback and outcomes...

You will soon flow from one interaction to the next, as fluid
as water, and your confidence will be as solid as a rock...you
will learn to comprehend the LESSONS of each interaction
without feeling any confusion, frustration or regret once it's
past...you will be free of all the suffering associated with
looking at things through Grandma Jeffries now infamous "Shit
Glasses" and you will be well on your way to the success you
desire with that woman of your dreams.

I know this because I was one of the first people Ross taught
this particular Nail Your Inner Game methodology to, and even
as a voracious student of the community's top gurus, I was
unaware of the deep and lasting impact this new technology
would continue to have on my life.

Now I don't know what you think of Ross Jeffries. Does he have
an ego? Yes. Is he a freakish innovator? Yes. But is he a
serious and caring teacher who feels genuine joy at helping
regular guys achieve success with women? A resounding YES.

Ross is so excited by the response to, and interest in, his
new Nail Your Inner Game methodologies, from the Stylelife
West Coast Conference to all the emails over the last week,
that he has asked me to share this recording he created on The
Myth of Self-Esteem.

So tune in to your deeper self that knows this will work for
you while you listen to Ross Jeffries talk about The Myth of
Self-Esteem. This is one of many concepts to be comprehended
in Nailing Your Inner Game:







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BONUS FROM ROSS JEFFRIES - THE MYTH OF SELF ESTEEM
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Let's face it; regardless of whether or not you're going to do
this new Nail Your Inner Game with Ross Jeffries program, it's
pretty damn cool to get all these concepts and understandings
from the man who basically invented the seduction community
for free.

And once again, in case you missed it, here is the link to the
Bonus Audio of Ross Jeffries talking about The Myth of
Self-Esteem...


www.stylelife.com/nailit/BONUS_RJ_MYTH_OF_SELF-ESTEEM.php


Your Pal,


The Sneak


P.S . I just received an email from Flashback that said Ross
might hold an open conference call to speak with all of you
directly about this new Nail Your Inner Game methodology! I
can't imagine we will be able to get all of you on one single
call so watch your inbox closely so you can have the
opportunity to Nail Your Inner Game and interact with Ross
Jeffries on the call for free!

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Stylelife Academy
8491 Sunset Blvd. #348
West Hollywood, CA 90069, USA

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Ross Jeffries dumpster diving story...from the Neil Strauss Lifestyle Academy

The Sneak again and here's the story you've been waiting for,
in Ross' own words!

And for your benefit, we were able to do something special. I
just got off the phone with Ross' top lab assistant,
Flashback, trying to confirm a few details about the story.
And Flashback told me he got Ross to record an MP3 clip so
everyone can hear the story, and the VALUABLE LESSON it
contains, firsthand! Click below to listen and let me know if
you can relate...


Bonus - Ross Jeffries Dumpsters Diving Story


After I heard this story, I called Neil again. We could tell
that Ross was immensely frustrated and concerned with this
particular student's pattern. But it went EVEN DEEPER than
that. We could see how frustrated Ross was at seeing this
pattern happening over and over again with many of his
students. A teacher, after all, is measured by the success of
the students. And this sticking point was something that was
posted continuously in all the forums and a source of
frustration for not just PUAs but AFCs as well.

You see, the thing that has always bewildered the leaders of
our community is how a competent, well trained student could
completely slip back into his old AFC self after a single,
minor setback in the field. Back in the Project Hollywood
days, Neil and Tyler Durden used to discuss this a lot. They
called it AFC Reversion Syndrome, and it happens to the best
of us. In the process, guys lose every technology, technique,
and practice they have been working on integrating into their
being. It has been extremely hard to understand. And here's
why...

For this to happen, a student would have to completely dismiss
a lengthy list of what he had done right thus far in his
evolution from AFC to PUA. This means that there is a
tremendous amount of negative mental programming that will
always trump any amount of training you receive.

Ross realized this after asking countless students at
countless seminars; "How often do you dwell on your mistakes
and heartaches with women?" The answers he would receive were
all frighteningly similar.

"I still think about them...ALL THE TIME!!!" the students
would quietly admit. (In fact, Ross asked this same question
at the Stylelife West Coast Conference and got the exact same
answer from a sold out room full of students!)

And it is true...

You know, most people are unconsciously programmed to dwell on
past mistakes and perceived failures. You seem to think that
by punishing yourself, you will ensure that you do not make the
same mistake again. The bitch of it is, that by doing this, you
are actually recreating the problem...

And I mean that quite literally...

Furthermore, dwelling on mistakes pins the confusion and
frustration right back onto you. The energy and vibe
associated with this type of dwelling actually recreates that
same experience in a future moment to come. This is the
critical point where the mindless loop of self-sabotage and
frustration begins!

Ross related it to me like this..."How do you expect to escape
from prison when you are constantly reinforcing the very walls
that hold you in?" I had to think about this rhetorical
question for a while before I really understood it, but once I
did, I realized it was possibly life-changing.

Ross went on to systematically explain the science behind it
all. He said, "This type of dwelling and rehearsal is a very
powerful form of hypnotic suggestion." He professed that when
you dwell and ruminate in this fashion you never get a chance
to start over with a clean slate, devoid of the hurt,
frustration and painful memories in your past.

So what does all this mean?

It means that the mistakes of last night, last week, even last
year are playing like an audio file on repeat in your mind,
while the images of failure and the feelings of rejection are
simultaneously broadcast through every cell and fiber of your
body.

It means that whenever you perceive a mistake is going to be
made, or has been made, you experience the confusion,
frustration and pain associated with rejection and failure all
over again.

It all becomes just one big self-fulfilling prophecy.

Furthermore, and maybe more directly, it means that you have
unconsciously created a filter of failure through which you
view the world, and as Ross's mother used to tell him, "If you
dip your sunglasses in dog shit, even the roses look brown."

Its no wonder guys have Approach Anxiety and fears of
rejection or inadequacy. They carry it with them through each
and every moment of their life, unknowingly trying to learn
the art of attraction with the constant droning of
"Loooserrrr...faaaiillluureee...you'rrreee not gooood
enoughhhh..." running in the background of their minds.

It's really sad when you think about it. You know, most guys
never even realize where they are going wrong. They end up in
the field, after tirelessly practicing every gambit they can
wrap themselves around, but they continue to hear and feel the
never-ending montage of rejection. It is punishing. It is
ruthless. It is relentless.

As with many other aspiring PUA's in the community, I have to
overcome this hurdle myself. So it does not leave me with any
wonder why students give up and fall back to their old AFC
ways over a minor mistake.

In fact, up until now, it has always been quite discouraging
to think that no matter how well prepared a student is, you
can slip right back into your old ways, at any given moment,
as long as this limiting mental programming is around.

So my question to Ross was..."How can we solve this? How can
we put an end to students walking up to the open door, the
passageway of who they can be, and turning back?"

Ross replied with a grin, "Allow me, you know there is no
amount of new attraction lines or routines that can fix
this, so rather than continue to put band-aids on these
gaping wounds, it's time we perform the surgery needed to heal
the injury completely."

He smirked and said, "And I've figured out just how to do
this."

"Okay, then what is the answer?" I asked.

And Ross said...

Oh, come on now, you know you're going to have to wait. This
email is long enough as it is. So in your next email, you'll
see JUST how thoroughly (and elegantly) Ross had discovered
the cure to this problem.

You know this is fun...it's like an inner-game email soap opera.

Until Next Time,
The Sneak

P.S. - In case you missed it, here is the link to Ross's
Story. Definitely take the time to listen to it:

http://www.stylelife.com/nailit/BONUS_ROSS_JEFFRIES_DUMPSTER_DIVING_STORY.MP3