Ross Jeffries dumpster diving story...from the Neil Strauss Lifestyle Academy

The Sneak again and here's the story you've been waiting for,
in Ross' own words!

And for your benefit, we were able to do something special. I
just got off the phone with Ross' top lab assistant,
Flashback, trying to confirm a few details about the story.
And Flashback told me he got Ross to record an MP3 clip so
everyone can hear the story, and the VALUABLE LESSON it
contains, firsthand! Click below to listen and let me know if
you can relate...


Bonus - Ross Jeffries Dumpsters Diving Story


After I heard this story, I called Neil again. We could tell
that Ross was immensely frustrated and concerned with this
particular student's pattern. But it went EVEN DEEPER than
that. We could see how frustrated Ross was at seeing this
pattern happening over and over again with many of his
students. A teacher, after all, is measured by the success of
the students. And this sticking point was something that was
posted continuously in all the forums and a source of
frustration for not just PUAs but AFCs as well.

You see, the thing that has always bewildered the leaders of
our community is how a competent, well trained student could
completely slip back into his old AFC self after a single,
minor setback in the field. Back in the Project Hollywood
days, Neil and Tyler Durden used to discuss this a lot. They
called it AFC Reversion Syndrome, and it happens to the best
of us. In the process, guys lose every technology, technique,
and practice they have been working on integrating into their
being. It has been extremely hard to understand. And here's
why...

For this to happen, a student would have to completely dismiss
a lengthy list of what he had done right thus far in his
evolution from AFC to PUA. This means that there is a
tremendous amount of negative mental programming that will
always trump any amount of training you receive.

Ross realized this after asking countless students at
countless seminars; "How often do you dwell on your mistakes
and heartaches with women?" The answers he would receive were
all frighteningly similar.

"I still think about them...ALL THE TIME!!!" the students
would quietly admit. (In fact, Ross asked this same question
at the Stylelife West Coast Conference and got the exact same
answer from a sold out room full of students!)

And it is true...

You know, most people are unconsciously programmed to dwell on
past mistakes and perceived failures. You seem to think that
by punishing yourself, you will ensure that you do not make the
same mistake again. The bitch of it is, that by doing this, you
are actually recreating the problem...

And I mean that quite literally...

Furthermore, dwelling on mistakes pins the confusion and
frustration right back onto you. The energy and vibe
associated with this type of dwelling actually recreates that
same experience in a future moment to come. This is the
critical point where the mindless loop of self-sabotage and
frustration begins!

Ross related it to me like this..."How do you expect to escape
from prison when you are constantly reinforcing the very walls
that hold you in?" I had to think about this rhetorical
question for a while before I really understood it, but once I
did, I realized it was possibly life-changing.

Ross went on to systematically explain the science behind it
all. He said, "This type of dwelling and rehearsal is a very
powerful form of hypnotic suggestion." He professed that when
you dwell and ruminate in this fashion you never get a chance
to start over with a clean slate, devoid of the hurt,
frustration and painful memories in your past.

So what does all this mean?

It means that the mistakes of last night, last week, even last
year are playing like an audio file on repeat in your mind,
while the images of failure and the feelings of rejection are
simultaneously broadcast through every cell and fiber of your
body.

It means that whenever you perceive a mistake is going to be
made, or has been made, you experience the confusion,
frustration and pain associated with rejection and failure all
over again.

It all becomes just one big self-fulfilling prophecy.

Furthermore, and maybe more directly, it means that you have
unconsciously created a filter of failure through which you
view the world, and as Ross's mother used to tell him, "If you
dip your sunglasses in dog shit, even the roses look brown."

Its no wonder guys have Approach Anxiety and fears of
rejection or inadequacy. They carry it with them through each
and every moment of their life, unknowingly trying to learn
the art of attraction with the constant droning of
"Loooserrrr...faaaiillluureee...you'rrreee not gooood
enoughhhh..." running in the background of their minds.

It's really sad when you think about it. You know, most guys
never even realize where they are going wrong. They end up in
the field, after tirelessly practicing every gambit they can
wrap themselves around, but they continue to hear and feel the
never-ending montage of rejection. It is punishing. It is
ruthless. It is relentless.

As with many other aspiring PUA's in the community, I have to
overcome this hurdle myself. So it does not leave me with any
wonder why students give up and fall back to their old AFC
ways over a minor mistake.

In fact, up until now, it has always been quite discouraging
to think that no matter how well prepared a student is, you
can slip right back into your old ways, at any given moment,
as long as this limiting mental programming is around.

So my question to Ross was..."How can we solve this? How can
we put an end to students walking up to the open door, the
passageway of who they can be, and turning back?"

Ross replied with a grin, "Allow me, you know there is no
amount of new attraction lines or routines that can fix
this, so rather than continue to put band-aids on these
gaping wounds, it's time we perform the surgery needed to heal
the injury completely."

He smirked and said, "And I've figured out just how to do
this."

"Okay, then what is the answer?" I asked.

And Ross said...

Oh, come on now, you know you're going to have to wait. This
email is long enough as it is. So in your next email, you'll
see JUST how thoroughly (and elegantly) Ross had discovered
the cure to this problem.

You know this is fun...it's like an inner-game email soap opera.

Until Next Time,
The Sneak

P.S. - In case you missed it, here is the link to Ross's
Story. Definitely take the time to listen to it:

http://www.stylelife.com/nailit/BONUS_ROSS_JEFFRIES_DUMPSTER_DIVING_STORY.MP3