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The prize: A special accessory that will super-charge your life.
Saturday, December 29, 2007
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Mystery, Mystery Method & Venusian Arts - free video archives
Mystery Method: Venusian Arts
By Richard La Ruina - PUA Training.com, author of The Natural Art of Seduction
The Mystery Method was conceptualized by Erik Von Markovich - aka Mystery - author of The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed
and the man considered by many to be the founder of the seduction community in its current form. The Mystery Method was first taught to students from the man himself via bootcamp events that he promoted on Internet forums and other online seduction-related communitities. It was at these events that Mystery taught his patented method covering the stages of seduction considered to be necessary from the moment a man spots a woman he is interested in to sleeping with her: Attract; (build) Comfort; Seduce your target.
The Mystery Method became so synomyous with the seduction community that it led to genuine claims of top spot for Von Markovich's company. Though this was not without much criticism of the model itself and even of Mystery's tactics.
What was to come in for most criticism was one of the most intrinsic tactics of the Mystery Method: 'negging', whereby a man gives a woman he is interested in a backhanded 'insult' as a means of lowering her 'value' in comparison to his own. Another critique of the Mystery Method is that it is inflexible- being best suited to seducing women in nightclubs or bars.
The Mystery Method holds true that men are of lower value in the eyes of society than women: something that very much appears to juxtapose claims that the seduction community is a form of self-development. This suggests that men must show outwardly attractive attributes in order to display enough value to a woman to warrant her acceptance of a man's advances.
One important stage of the Mystery Method- 'Comfort' is considered essential for building enough rapport and trust with a woman so that she associates those feelings with the man in her company so much so that she is ultimately open to being seduced. This is increasingly viewed with scepticism, however, as the notion that it takes 7 hours from start to finish in the process of seduction is questioned more and more.
Of late, in the seduction community, as it spreads and turns more mainstream with the release of films like Hitch and Wedding Crashers and a proposed film based on Neil Strauss' book 'The Game', towards a more direct and natural style of approaching women that does not use scripted routines and material- almost rendering the Mystery Method out-dated and benign.
To boot, there has been brewing angst in the Mystery Method camp as the man himself has cut ties from the Corporation and set up his own establishment, The Venusian Arts, along with former Instructors Lovedrop and Matador.
Recommended:
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ABC Primetime Special (Mystery Method)
Primetime follows Mystery and Neil Strauss (author of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists
) through the process of a bootcamp/workshop. Transforming men from afc's (average frustrated chumps) to pua's (pick-up artists). Tips on seduction, dating, and how to pick up women.
[Street Pick Up] Mystery Method - Fear of the Approach
Tips on street pick up and sarging for the pua and player.
Mystery Method, part 1
Introduction and attraction
Mystery Method, part 2
Mystery Method, part 3
Mystery Method, part 4
Project Hollywood Mystery Bootcamp Long Clip 1
By Richard La Ruina - PUA Training.com, author of The Natural Art of Seduction
The Mystery Method was conceptualized by Erik Von Markovich - aka Mystery - author of The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed
and the man considered by many to be the founder of the seduction community in its current form. The Mystery Method was first taught to students from the man himself via bootcamp events that he promoted on Internet forums and other online seduction-related communitities. It was at these events that Mystery taught his patented method covering the stages of seduction considered to be necessary from the moment a man spots a woman he is interested in to sleeping with her: Attract; (build) Comfort; Seduce your target.The Mystery Method became so synomyous with the seduction community that it led to genuine claims of top spot for Von Markovich's company. Though this was not without much criticism of the model itself and even of Mystery's tactics.
What was to come in for most criticism was one of the most intrinsic tactics of the Mystery Method: 'negging', whereby a man gives a woman he is interested in a backhanded 'insult' as a means of lowering her 'value' in comparison to his own. Another critique of the Mystery Method is that it is inflexible- being best suited to seducing women in nightclubs or bars.
The Mystery Method holds true that men are of lower value in the eyes of society than women: something that very much appears to juxtapose claims that the seduction community is a form of self-development. This suggests that men must show outwardly attractive attributes in order to display enough value to a woman to warrant her acceptance of a man's advances.
One important stage of the Mystery Method- 'Comfort' is considered essential for building enough rapport and trust with a woman so that she associates those feelings with the man in her company so much so that she is ultimately open to being seduced. This is increasingly viewed with scepticism, however, as the notion that it takes 7 hours from start to finish in the process of seduction is questioned more and more.
Of late, in the seduction community, as it spreads and turns more mainstream with the release of films like Hitch and Wedding Crashers and a proposed film based on Neil Strauss' book 'The Game', towards a more direct and natural style of approaching women that does not use scripted routines and material- almost rendering the Mystery Method out-dated and benign.
To boot, there has been brewing angst in the Mystery Method camp as the man himself has cut ties from the Corporation and set up his own establishment, The Venusian Arts, along with former Instructors Lovedrop and Matador.
Recommended:
Attract women and seduce them with GuyGetsGirl's pick up, dating and seduction guide (insider secrets written by a WOMAN!) - Click Here! - "How To Approach Any Woman, Anywhere And Know Exactly What To Say To Get Her To Give You Her Number And Go On A Date With You - NOW"
ABC Primetime Special (Mystery Method)
Primetime follows Mystery and Neil Strauss (author of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists
) through the process of a bootcamp/workshop. Transforming men from afc's (average frustrated chumps) to pua's (pick-up artists). Tips on seduction, dating, and how to pick up women.[Street Pick Up] Mystery Method - Fear of the Approach
Tips on street pick up and sarging for the pua and player.
Mystery Method, part 1
Introduction and attraction
Mystery Method, part 2
Mystery Method, part 3
Mystery Method, part 4
Project Hollywood Mystery Bootcamp Long Clip 1
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The Nine Phases Of A Seduction
By Richard La Ruina - Pua Training.com, author of The Natural Art of Seduction
Here we present a nine-phase sequence which covers a male-female interaction from the initial meeting of two strangers to the consummation of the interaction in sexual intercourse.
The sequence may occur on one evening, or over a number of meetings- in particular the middle phases may last over several dates. The average amount of time required from meeting to sex is usually somewhere between 5 and 9 hours- where some of the phases, such as the first, usually last only a few minutes
1. Open
The man approaches the woman and initiates conversation. This phase is successfully negotiated when the woman indicates that she is willing for the man to stay- we call this indication the "hook-point".
2. Female-to-male attraction
The man demonstrates his value to the female, taking care not to appear try-hard. The female responds by giving indicators of interest- light touching, eye contact, smiling etc.
3. Male-to-female attraction
The man baits the female into investing in the interaction through demonstrating her own unique attractiveness- i.e. he gives her a chance to "win him over". The man responds by rewarding the female for her efforts- either verbally, or through light touching etc.
4. Conversation
Having established mutual attraction, the interaction becomes more substantial and a sense of connection and rapport is formed. This phase is the opportunity for the male and female to discover the breadth and depth of topics and experiences which they have in common.
5. Connection
Both parties feel a vibe that it is 'on'. The conversation may decrease in fervour, leading to the development of sexual tension. Kissing usually occurs during this phase.
6. Intimacy
The location for the interaction should now have moved to a more private venue, such as the home. More intimate physical contact may comfortably ensue at this phase.
7. Foreplay
The couple begin the physical escalation towards sex. Premature commencement of this phase- such as in the meeting place venue - may abort the pick-up before the end.
8. Last-minute resistance
This is the point of no return for the female, where she may throw out a number of emotional objections disguised as logical propositions. The man needs to reassure the female at this point of his commitment to her and the interaction.
9. Sexual intercourse
The couple have sex. It may be necessary to do this several times in order to commence a relationship.
Observing a male-female interaction at this level of granularity helps maintain the smoothness of the pick-up artist's escalation, a vital ingredient for the successful communication of respect for a woman's needs in the process from meeting to sex.
Richard La Ruina presents...
How To Pick Up Women In The Supermarket Or Grocery Store
By Richard La Ruina, author of The Natural Art of Seduction
What's with these crazy guys going to noisy, smoky, expensive clubs filled with loads of other guys all trying to hit on the same few hot girls? Don't these people know that we are surrounded with women all day long, everywhere we go? Everyone does food shopping, below are the methods you can use to make your routine grocery purchase turn into trip where you pick up more than your dinner:
1. Be the Fun Sociable Guy
The first thing that needs to be mentioned is your mental state. You can't be "the pickup guy" when you are out shopping, that would be too weird. Your reason for starting conversations with hot women will be that you are a fun sociable guy who talks to lots of people and so talking to her will be natural. Get in this mindset, it's the best one to have for the day-time.
2. Don't Focus on the Result, Focus on the Open
Don't look at every woman and think that you need to get her number, just have the aim to start a conversation and see where it leads. If you are having a nice interaction with a hot woman, taking her number or going for an 'instant date' will be natural.
3. Know the Process
The process for a day-time pickup is different to that of a night time one. An important difference is that you cannot be too sexual, it's out of place and weird. So what do you do? The process is as follows:
1. Be indirect, talk about something situational until she is comfortable and engaged in a 2-way conversation.
2. Find out some personal stuff about her.
3. Get connections.
4. Find a reason to see her again or to hang out.
5. Get the number or go for an instant date (like a coffee).
4. What to Say
Don't worry, I know everyone reading this wants to ask But what do I say? Here are some openers you can use. You can preface each with "You look like you know your stuff":
How can you tell when this is ripe?
How would you cook this?
I have a Vegetarian coming round for dinner so can't cook my famous chicken, what is something I can easily whip up?
Which wine goes with X?
Oh don't buy that salad, this one is way tastier.
Help me choose, pizza or quiche."
So now you can go out and meet women in a much easier and more natural environment where you have no competition. You'll be able to meet nice girls that don't go to clubs, and you won't need to buy anyone drinks. You'll be meeting the real person, without her friends. Good luck!
GMTV Interview between PUA Training's Gambler (Richard La Ruina) and Lorraine Kelly
Gambler was featured as the World's Best Pick-Up Artist on flagship ITV1 breakfast show GMTV. Here he is being interviewed by Lorraine Kelly. Also featured is female trainer - Kezia. For more on Gambler, Kezia, PUATraining check out www.puatraining.com
The interview was about Gambler/Richard La Ruina's new book - The Natural Art of Seduction.
The Four Mistakes Of Pick-Up
By Richard La Ruina, author of The Natural Art of Seduction
Pick-up -- as it really is, rather than as it's taught in the popular magazine -- is a 3-phase sequence which must be followed in order for reliable results. The first phase is attraction, where the man gains attraction from the woman; the second phase is comfort, where the man gets the woman to feel comfortable with him; the third phase is seduction, where the man, having gained attraction and comfort proceeds to convert these vital two ingredients into a sexual relationship. Nearly all the mistakes of pick-up- that is any male-female interaction which does not result in a sexual relationship- can be attributed to an error in following the sequence described here.
Mistake 1: starting at the end
A man who starts at the last phase- seduction- disregards the need for a woman to first feel attracted and also the need for her to feel comfort and initiates the interaction directly in the seduction mode. He touches the woman improperly, conveys too much sexual intent too soon, and will come across as sleazy or worse.
Mistake 2: starting at the middle
Men who have observed mistake number 1 often try to rectify this by implementing a comfort phase before seduction. Almost always they never reach the seduction phase, because having ignored the need for a woman to be attracted, they get stuck in the 'friend zone', where a woman becomes too comfortable with them as a friend to ever feel comfortable proceeding into a sexual relation. Men who start in the middle are commonly referred to as 'nice guys'.
Mistake 3: skipping the middle
Men who are proficient at building attraction (phase one), but then proceed directly to seduction- without comfort- are commonly referred to as "players". A woman may feel attraction to this man, but she is unlikely to believe or understand that he is attracted to her in any way which is unique or relevant to her- a vital and necessary ingredient for the smooth implementation of the seduction phase.
Mistake 4: getting stuck in the middle
Similar to mistake number 2, these men lay down the necessary foundations for seduction, but lack the confidence or the knowhow to advance smoothly into this phase, so forever circle between attraction and comfort. The woman soon becomes confused as to the man's intention and places him, like the nice guy, in the friend zone.
Often, just being aware of the correct sequence of a pick-up can act as a vital checklist during an interaction with a woman. The man should be aware of what phase he is in at any one moment, and never go backwards in the pick-up, nor go forwards too quickly (and skip one of the phases).
By Richard La Ruina - Pua Training.com, author of The Natural Art of Seduction
Here we present a nine-phase sequence which covers a male-female interaction from the initial meeting of two strangers to the consummation of the interaction in sexual intercourse.
The sequence may occur on one evening, or over a number of meetings- in particular the middle phases may last over several dates. The average amount of time required from meeting to sex is usually somewhere between 5 and 9 hours- where some of the phases, such as the first, usually last only a few minutes
1. Open
The man approaches the woman and initiates conversation. This phase is successfully negotiated when the woman indicates that she is willing for the man to stay- we call this indication the "hook-point".
2. Female-to-male attraction
The man demonstrates his value to the female, taking care not to appear try-hard. The female responds by giving indicators of interest- light touching, eye contact, smiling etc.
3. Male-to-female attraction
The man baits the female into investing in the interaction through demonstrating her own unique attractiveness- i.e. he gives her a chance to "win him over". The man responds by rewarding the female for her efforts- either verbally, or through light touching etc.
4. Conversation
Having established mutual attraction, the interaction becomes more substantial and a sense of connection and rapport is formed. This phase is the opportunity for the male and female to discover the breadth and depth of topics and experiences which they have in common.
5. Connection
Both parties feel a vibe that it is 'on'. The conversation may decrease in fervour, leading to the development of sexual tension. Kissing usually occurs during this phase.
6. Intimacy
The location for the interaction should now have moved to a more private venue, such as the home. More intimate physical contact may comfortably ensue at this phase.
7. Foreplay
The couple begin the physical escalation towards sex. Premature commencement of this phase- such as in the meeting place venue - may abort the pick-up before the end.
8. Last-minute resistance
This is the point of no return for the female, where she may throw out a number of emotional objections disguised as logical propositions. The man needs to reassure the female at this point of his commitment to her and the interaction.
9. Sexual intercourse
The couple have sex. It may be necessary to do this several times in order to commence a relationship.
Observing a male-female interaction at this level of granularity helps maintain the smoothness of the pick-up artist's escalation, a vital ingredient for the successful communication of respect for a woman's needs in the process from meeting to sex.
Richard La Ruina presents...
How To Pick Up Women In The Supermarket Or Grocery Store
By Richard La Ruina, author of The Natural Art of Seduction
What's with these crazy guys going to noisy, smoky, expensive clubs filled with loads of other guys all trying to hit on the same few hot girls? Don't these people know that we are surrounded with women all day long, everywhere we go? Everyone does food shopping, below are the methods you can use to make your routine grocery purchase turn into trip where you pick up more than your dinner:
1. Be the Fun Sociable Guy
The first thing that needs to be mentioned is your mental state. You can't be "the pickup guy" when you are out shopping, that would be too weird. Your reason for starting conversations with hot women will be that you are a fun sociable guy who talks to lots of people and so talking to her will be natural. Get in this mindset, it's the best one to have for the day-time.
2. Don't Focus on the Result, Focus on the Open
Don't look at every woman and think that you need to get her number, just have the aim to start a conversation and see where it leads. If you are having a nice interaction with a hot woman, taking her number or going for an 'instant date' will be natural.
3. Know the Process
The process for a day-time pickup is different to that of a night time one. An important difference is that you cannot be too sexual, it's out of place and weird. So what do you do? The process is as follows:
1. Be indirect, talk about something situational until she is comfortable and engaged in a 2-way conversation.
2. Find out some personal stuff about her.
3. Get connections.
4. Find a reason to see her again or to hang out.
5. Get the number or go for an instant date (like a coffee).
4. What to Say
Don't worry, I know everyone reading this wants to ask But what do I say? Here are some openers you can use. You can preface each with "You look like you know your stuff":
How can you tell when this is ripe?
How would you cook this?
I have a Vegetarian coming round for dinner so can't cook my famous chicken, what is something I can easily whip up?
Which wine goes with X?
Oh don't buy that salad, this one is way tastier.
Help me choose, pizza or quiche."
So now you can go out and meet women in a much easier and more natural environment where you have no competition. You'll be able to meet nice girls that don't go to clubs, and you won't need to buy anyone drinks. You'll be meeting the real person, without her friends. Good luck!
GMTV Interview between PUA Training's Gambler (Richard La Ruina) and Lorraine Kelly
Gambler was featured as the World's Best Pick-Up Artist on flagship ITV1 breakfast show GMTV. Here he is being interviewed by Lorraine Kelly. Also featured is female trainer - Kezia. For more on Gambler, Kezia, PUATraining check out www.puatraining.com
The interview was about Gambler/Richard La Ruina's new book - The Natural Art of Seduction.
The Four Mistakes Of Pick-Up
By Richard La Ruina, author of The Natural Art of Seduction
Pick-up -- as it really is, rather than as it's taught in the popular magazine -- is a 3-phase sequence which must be followed in order for reliable results. The first phase is attraction, where the man gains attraction from the woman; the second phase is comfort, where the man gets the woman to feel comfortable with him; the third phase is seduction, where the man, having gained attraction and comfort proceeds to convert these vital two ingredients into a sexual relationship. Nearly all the mistakes of pick-up- that is any male-female interaction which does not result in a sexual relationship- can be attributed to an error in following the sequence described here.
Mistake 1: starting at the end
A man who starts at the last phase- seduction- disregards the need for a woman to first feel attracted and also the need for her to feel comfort and initiates the interaction directly in the seduction mode. He touches the woman improperly, conveys too much sexual intent too soon, and will come across as sleazy or worse.
Mistake 2: starting at the middle
Men who have observed mistake number 1 often try to rectify this by implementing a comfort phase before seduction. Almost always they never reach the seduction phase, because having ignored the need for a woman to be attracted, they get stuck in the 'friend zone', where a woman becomes too comfortable with them as a friend to ever feel comfortable proceeding into a sexual relation. Men who start in the middle are commonly referred to as 'nice guys'.
Mistake 3: skipping the middle
Men who are proficient at building attraction (phase one), but then proceed directly to seduction- without comfort- are commonly referred to as "players". A woman may feel attraction to this man, but she is unlikely to believe or understand that he is attracted to her in any way which is unique or relevant to her- a vital and necessary ingredient for the smooth implementation of the seduction phase.
Mistake 4: getting stuck in the middle
Similar to mistake number 2, these men lay down the necessary foundations for seduction, but lack the confidence or the knowhow to advance smoothly into this phase, so forever circle between attraction and comfort. The woman soon becomes confused as to the man's intention and places him, like the nice guy, in the friend zone.
Often, just being aware of the correct sequence of a pick-up can act as a vital checklist during an interaction with a woman. The man should be aware of what phase he is in at any one moment, and never go backwards in the pick-up, nor go forwards too quickly (and skip one of the phases).
Saturday, December 15, 2007
Ross Jeffries and Speed Seduction - free video archive
Ross Jeffries
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- "A quantum leap"...Rolling Stone, March 1998
- "Jeez, it worked"...Playboy, July 1998
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- "A quantum leap"...Rolling Stone, March 1998
- "Jeez, it worked"...Playboy, July 1998
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Ross Jeffries Interview, Part 2
Ross Jeffries interviewed by Jason C. Steinle Part 1
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Ross Jeffries interviewed by Jason C. Steinle Part 5
Ross Jeffries interviewed by Jason C. Steinle Part 6
Using NLP To Seduce Women
By Richard La Ruina - Pua Training.com
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a powerful tool in many areas, from therapy, to sales, to self-improvement. As a powerful tool of influence, many men have asked how it can be applied to seducing women. It can be applied in simple ways with limited effect, or it can be used to make a woman desire you completely. Here is how to use NLP to seduce women
1. Positive use of language
A simple but effective use of NLP is to make sure you never use negative language. Saying "today wasn't amazing, thinks didn't go as perfectly as I'd imagined" is so much better to hear than "today was awful, things went terribly". Just simply using positive words rather than negative words allows you to convey the same information without affecting the mood.
2. Pacing and leading
If she is speaking negatively, first pace it by agreeing and expanding on it, but then take charge and turn things positive by changing the subject or positively reframing the negative event. Pacing and leading also applies to energy and state. If she is cold with you, don't be loving with her, instead match her coldness and then slowly lead her into being seductive by slowly becoming seductive yourself. The same applies to if she is tired or bored, pace and then lead.
3. Mirroring and matching
When people spend a lot of time together, they tend to share mannerisms, reactions, vocabulary, and tone and speed of speech. You can see this with good friends, couples, and relatives. If you match and mirror someone, they will feel a lot more comfortable and relaxed with you and like they have known you longer. Do this by:
- Speaking at a similar speed, and using a similar amount of gestures.
- Feeding back the words they use in conversation.
- Mirroring the way they sit, the amount of eye contact, and the facial expression.
You can get away with a surprising amount of mirroring and matching: they don't seem to notice!
4. Anchoring
Anchoring is the process of linking a touch, sound, or visual input to an emotion. When the woman laughs, you can click your fingers, or touch her and it will anchor the emotion to the click or touch. Later you can try to re-trigger the emotion by simply firing the anchor- the touch or click. You can also anchor by playing songs when she is with you that she will later hear and associate to being with you.
5. Patterns
NLP patterns for seduction involve the use of language to bring out an emotion in the girl that is desirable given the current circumstances. An example of an NLP seduction pattern would be:
"Have you ever just met someone and almost immediately you start to feel incredibly comfortable like you've known this person forever and then as you just let the barriers drop and you let them more inside you start to naturally feel a sense of rightness, like this is meant to be."
NLP is a powerful tool of influence, and to land the girl of your dreams you are going to want to use all the tools at your disposal to maximise your chances. Work on the above techniques and your newfound success with women will surprise and delight you!
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